GRIEF during the HOLIDAYS - Mad Tasker Tip Tuesday
Have Realistic Expectations. Grief can be exhausting, so be sure to adjust your holiday schedule to accommodate "down time" to relax and recharge. Mom's in particular read this part "KNOW HOW TO SAY NO!", it is healthy for you (and those around you) to set boundaries. Communicate your needs those around you, above all don't make the mistake of assuming others know what you need.
Resist the Urge to Isolate yourself. If you feel pressure to attend every event it could exacerbate your exhaustion. Balance is key, commit to those events where you will be surrounded by people who can support you in the way you need. Have a escape plan in mind in case you begin to feel overwhelmed. Holidays will begin to get easier if you allow yourself to experience the emotional stages of grieving.
Maintain your connection with loved ones. Our bonds with loved ones do not end when they die. Find meaningful ways to remember your loved one, it will bring active comfort to you.
Allow yourself to grieve but equally as important to take breaks from grieving. Laughing and experiencing joy does not mean you have forgotten or disrespect you deceased loved one. It is normal to oscillate in and out of grief.
Do something kind for others. Donating in honour of your loved one, volunteering for a charity, making a meal for someone who is alone is a great way to focus your energy in a productive meaningful way.
While grief is a normal and healthy process, if your grief has become debilitating and all-consuming, and hasn't eased for 6 months, you may be experiencing a form of complicated grief that requires additional support from a professional. If you think you may be experiencing complicated grief, please seek assistance from your doctor or mental health professional.
Be authentic about your loss but reflect on the happy memories!